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Don’t fake it ’til you make it — Cosplay yourself

(originally published at texasmojoman.com)

“Fake it ’til you make it!” the wisdom goes. In other words: if you don’t feel like you are what you want to be, just act in the role and it will eventually become reality. Dress in the clothes. Talk the talk. Spend time with the people. Do the things. Pretend if you have to.

I’m a fan of this thinking, but I’ve decided that there is an even stronger idea. Cosplay yourself.

Cosplay is basically what we’ve all done on Halloween. You dress up as someone. But, for cosplayers, Halloween happens all year round. These people go to astounding lengths to bring their visions to life, which is much more in tune with what we are trying to accomplish with ourselves.

The problem with “faking it” is that you are fake. It has this aspect of being an imposter. The intention is to get you to be bold. As you are bold, you find that you actually were able to do the thing all along. Your powers come from within. But, sometimes we have problems getting over the fake part. 

I find that cosplayers provide some excellent inspirations for becoming. Maybe they will resonate with you, too.


1. You identify with what inspires you.

Cosplay at the 2016 New York Comic Con by Richie S

When cosplayers come out, they connect with what inspires them. They seem to delight in being recognized as their characters. People call them by that name and take pictures with them. It’s OK if there are other Spidermen or Wonder Women. It’s OK that the costumes may come from different eras of the character. It’s OK if some costumes are more party quality than film quality. It’s all about honoring that vision as best as one can. 

We need to be true to the vision, and not worry about what others are doing, except to be inspired by them. It’s always about realizing the vision as well as you can. Even though the casual observer might see a group as all the same, the discerning observer will find the nuances that make us a special connection for them. Your variation, your uniqueness is an asset.

 2. It’s not about perfection

Photo from SnappyPixels.com

People bring varying degrees of resourcefulness and artistic skill to their creations. Even those attempts that are considered “bad” are recognized. People still take pictures. Do they know they don’t look like the costume in the movie? Of course, they do! While some of them might be considered extra-optimistic, they came out of the house; they took it out on the street. They let the mask lend them a little extra courage to let go and have fun with it. It was likely a positive, memorable experience. If nothing else, it was a day out of the dreary treadmill of the ordinary.

We usually worry too much about perfection. We make the plan and want to execute the plan. Ultimately it is about whether or not the goals are achieved. Learn the lessons when things go astray, but don’t forget the actual goals. It’s OK if things get a little ridiculous from time to time. Strike the pose and be the thing. Your passion may transcend whatever you think of as imperfections.

3. You can mix it up

Cosplayer, Chrissy Gross, as Ash Wednesday. 
(Wednesday Addams from The Addams Family + Ash from the Evil Dead series + 
a religious holy day)

One of the things that cosplayers like to do is witty mashups. They combine ideas for puns, like Ash Wednesday, above. They gender bend. They play with time. They play with genres. Anything that can be imagined is fair game. Not everyone will get it. Some will need it explained. Even then, some will go “Meh.” But some subset will fully appreciate the creativity and cleverness that went into realizing that vision. 

We are encouraged to be pure, to be one thing. There is a wonderful quote from science fiction writer, Robert Heinlein:

“A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly.

“Specialization is for insects.”

— Robert Heinlein, Time Enough for Love[

Marketing teaches that we need to be a box on the shelf with a single, recognizable thing. That may be true from a marketing perspective. However, humans are not made to be just one thing. Our curiosity, our multifaceted nature, our ability to try and do many different things make us naturally diverse. A laser focus might help you achieve a type of success, but what will you leave behind? 

Consider that if it feels right to you to combine some things that may be uncommon that you should listen to those feelings. Again, your unique set of flavors will create something that no one else can be. Just because something’s never been done doesn’t mean that it can’t be. Allow your inspirations to come from several different directions and combine them in a way that no one else has considered. Once people experience your version, it may be that everyone wants one! You may inspire others with something they believed was impossible. 


Manifesting our paths is an amazing act of creation. Some visions do require some precision and attention to detail. Some are more intuitive and flowing. In either case, it’s not about faking, it’s about realizing. Understand that you are always making it, no faking required. Let yourself be inspired by these cosplayers to bring your vision to life. If some days that works better in a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle outfit, then “Cowabunga!”

A Psychic Game to Play with Friends

“Am I psychic?”

Of course you are! We all have some connection to the mysterious and remarkable capabilities of our minds, just like anyone can throw a ball. Ability has to be nurtured, and may be bolstered by some special talent. For myself, the trickiest thing was, and remains, letting go of my logical thought and accepting the first thing that my intuition gives me. A lifetime of conditioning to listen to your logical thought and to mentally “look before you leap” turns our intuition into a barely audible whisper, but it’s still there. You just need to throw that brain ball around a little.

A fan of playing cardsAn easy way to do this is with something that you probably have lying around your house, a pack of playing cards. Cards are great for this because people are almost universally familiar with them. If I say 5 of clubs, you and I likely have the exact same picture in our heads of what that should look like. There’s no emotional interference, or experiential differences. A 5 of clubs is a 5 of clubs. Also, cards have a number of different things we can play with. We can look at colors, odd or even, shapes, numbers, etc. Just as a pack of playing cards offers an infinite possibilities for game play, there are many ways we can use them to exercise our psychic capabilities. Here are a few suggestions. Make up your own and share them.

TELEPATHY

Telepathy is the sending and reception of thought. One person thinks of something. Another person tries to perceive the thought. This is perfect with a deck of cards. Start small and work your way up as you find rapport with your partner. (Eventually you may be able to do it with strangers.) In each game, one person will be the sender and the other the receiver. You can divide the deck in half and take turns or keep one role for as many cards as you choose. You may find that it works better when one of you is the sender and the other is the receiver.

  • Red or Black — This is pretty straightforward. All we’re looking at is color. Is it a red card or a black card? The sender fills their mind with the color of the card and the receiver tries to pick up on it. This can be done fairly quickly and is an excellent way to begin.
  • Full or Empty — Playing cards either have a lot of white space, empty, or a lot of print on them, full. In this case we’re just trying to get a feel for how empty the card is. In general, Ace – four are pretty empty. Five and above are increasingly full. The six sometimes feels empty because of the white space in the middle. You and your partner will need to agree on what you think is full or empty.
  • Odd or Even — Just as cards come in red and black, they have odd and even numbers. I recommend that you play only with the cards that have actual numbers on them, purge the court cards. However, you can play this however you like.
  • Faces — In this game we are only interested in whether this is a face card.
  • Round or Pointy — If you look at the suits you’ll notice that the clubs and hearts are more rounded and the diamonds and spades are more pointy. Try to detect this aspect.
  • Combos — As you practice this and start having success you can do multi-phase games. Try the color, then one or more of the other aspects. You might get all the way to the point where you can fully identify the card!

Notice how these games look at different ways of thinking about something. Some people respond more strongly to one idea than another. Colors hit your brain differently than faces. You may find that you have greater success with one aspect over another and that will clue you into where you might focus your development.

Decide with your partner if you want to get instant feedback, which may help you tune your responses, or if you want to do a whole round with no feedback and then see how you did. In that case, you just set up a stack for each answer and then grade them at the end. In general, it is probably better to do them without feedback for a while until you get a feel for it.

If you do well with this, you are someone who can tune into others. This can be handy to help you read people in a number of situations and could be turned to your advantage.

Clairvoyance

When we play a card game, solitaire is playing by ourselves against the deck. When we are playing psychic games solitaire is a different thing entirely. All of the games that you play with another person can be done by yourself. Just shuffle the cards and try to pick up on the aspect before you turn the card. However, in this case you aren’t really doing telepathy. No one is thinking about this card. You are picking up the information from someplace else. This is called Clairvoyance, or “clear seeing.” There are many ways that you can try to connect. You can just close your eyes and try to visualize. You can feel the card (which is psychometry).

This is a different psychic skill from telepathy. If you find that you do this well you are someone who can pick up on things from the environment. This is a fascinating aspect to explore.

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Play the games and see what happens. If you have particularly good success or have any questions, please contact me. I also help people get started with this sort of thing in my psychic parties. Reach out and I’ll tell you how we can host one together.

Enjoy what you discover.